The Reversed Order of Love

In the present generation, we have observed the lethargic and incorrigible attitude displayed by ladies in the matters of relationship, love. This indiscrete act has resulted in a new pattern the world call 'shoot your shot'. Going by this, ladies are no longer aligned to the established order of love laid by God in Genesis.  This article is written to call back the attention of our young single ladies to the original plan of God when he established the order of love, companionship and intimacy between man and woman.

This concern about the issue of love exists because we understand that marriage is an important institution God initiated and He therefore put in place, a model path that others should follow using Adam and Eve(the first man and woman).

What is the Original order of Love?

In scriptures, the original order of love is. Let us also analyse how this order has been reversed and know the mind of God for ladies. Genesis 2:18-19 records that the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him/ Then, out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof." In verse 18, God displayed his affection and concern of man being alone. He knew that Adam needed a companion to stay with. There was a need for someone who would accompany man and make man feel less lonely. This means , man needed a lover.

     Genesis 2:18b; 

         "I will make a helper suitable for him."

    Here, the Lord called it ezer in Hebrew - Help/aid/rescuer. In the next verse, God went further to carry out an experiment we will be analysing.

The Experiment

    God brought all the living creatures he made and brought them to man. Why? Because he had a task at hand - To find a suitable (perfect) mate for Adam. God proceeded to observe that Adam gave name to all the animals but still none was fit for Adam. There was no sync with the animals.

    Notice that, if Adam had connected to any of the animal, then that would have been the suitable helper. Also note that, Adam didn't give the name woman to those animals.

    So we can say, if  he called lion woman then today, we will be mating with lions. 

Genesis 2:21-24  

    "And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;

And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man." (KJV)

    "God observed that Adam didn't choose any of the animals. This prompted the creation of Eve. God caused Adam to sleep and made her."

    This is where the order of love was established. 

    In verse 22, God brought Eve to Adam like he did with the animals and he never voiced to man that he used his ribs, but something thrilling happened.

    Adam sighted Eve and said " This is now my bone of bones". Also, observe the word he used 'now'. It is like saying, God this one you brought is the one I like and accept and she is my bone of bone, flesh of flesh. It was revealed to Adam without God telling him that she was made out of him.

This led to verse 25; 

      "This is why a man shall leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they become one flesh."

     Hallelujah! This is the order of love established by God. A man shall be the one to recognize that the lady is his wife and she completes him. But, it is so sad, that this order has been reversed.

The Reverse

     Ladies have forgotten that it is the man that should approach/chase/woo . They have stooped so low , ignoring this order God made. They are performing the role a man should by chasing, begging for love, listing all their body attributes in a bid to get loved.

  This is where the order of love got reversed. It was Adam who accepted Eve and called her woman, so ladies should allow a guy chase them and accept, that she is 'his'.

     Ladies stop using "shoot your shot" to go out of the plans of God for you. You want love, then stick to the order and it will find you. You were made to be accepted by the man God has for you. You shouldn't beg for attention because Eve didn't. Eve was in position and Adam did everything.

     This is God's call to our ladies, stop conforming to the world's pattern. Esther, unlike other virgins didn't ask for facial treatments, skin treatments or all. She understood this order and knew who she was as a woman. All she needed was to be appear before the king and he was hers. She didn't beg for attention or love. She didn't chase or woo. All she did was exhibit the godly aura. She followed the modeled path laid by God.

      It is the will of God that you are brought before your king and be accepted. It is the plan of God that you both should become one. He has a perfect plan for you and the arrangements has been made. You don't need to beg for what is yours.

Deborah didn't beg, Racheal didn't, Ruth didn't.

Take a look at Leah, she experienced the reversed side of love. Laban saw that Jacob was attracted to Racheal his younger daughter, but duped him by marrying Leah to Jacob. Because there was no acceptance, Leah experienced the reversed orderof love. Although the Lord had blessed her with children because he sympathized with her situation which isn't  his intentions for ladies, she never received love.

There is an order of love, so godly sisters stick to this order and you will find agape love . The love of God in the man he has prepared to love you.