How to Deal with Unwanted Pregnancy as an Unmarried Christian

The society is judgmental of pregnant unmarried people, basing their reproof on moral and cultural standings. As a Christian there are even more expectations of you from the church, from your immediate family and the society.

Notwithstanding we understand that the flesh is prone to sin. Apostle Paul in Galatians 5:17a says; "for the flesh desires what is contrary to the spirit, and the spirit what is contrary to the flesh". It is more easy to preach of abstinence than to practice it. 

Though pregnancy is a blessing, unwanted pregnancies come with a lot of panic, especially when you are a Christian. 

How to deal with unwanted pregnancy as an unmarried Christian: 

1. Confess and Seek God's Forgiveness

The Bible says in Romans 3:23, that all have sinned and come short of the glory of God". Accept that you have made a mistake and ask God to forgive you. 

2. Forgive yourself

Personal condemnation is destructive. While you ask God for forgiveness make sure to also forgive yourself. You can never truly heal unless you accept your wrongs and move through them. Don't ever stay stuck to one spot. Look at Bible examples of people with imperfect life, Rahab, Solomon, Paul, etc. God doesn't expect his children to be perfect, He wants them to be able to realize their sin and come to him. 

3. Speak to someone you trust

To handle pregnancies outside wedlock as a believer, it is important that you speak to someone who is spiritually grounded. This could be a trusted family member, friend or pastor. In tough times you're more likely to meet people who would give you wrong counsels. 

Avoid sayings like "desperate times need desperate actions". Think through all your decisions properly. Remember as a Christian you are answerable to God. So take guidance only from people who fear and respect God. 

4. Do not forsake the Company of Believers

As humans it's easy to run in the face of tough situations (avoid people, stay on your own, avoid gatherings). The best approach would be to be amongst like minded people. This is a time to strengthen your faith. Proverbs 13:20, "he who walks with the wise will be wise"  When you surround yourself with faith believers, it boosts your self confidence and morale. 

5. Accept that there will be punishments for your actions: 

Some churches have correctional measures for offending members, if you were a leader you may be stripped off your position, do not take this as a form of hate but understand that it is the price you have to pay for misconduct. 

6. Ask God for help 

After accepting that you have sinned, go back to the Father and ask for help. There's little to nothing anyone can do for you on their own terms. Acknowledge that he is your source and that you cannot do it without him.

7. Surround yourself with supportive family and friends: 

In a world of so much tongue lashing and hate you only need the right energy around you. Do not get depressed by people's denial. Do not be surprised when friends walk away from your life. 

Stay focused, your life is not over, there would always be people who are genuinely interested in your growth and welfare, focus on this people. No man is an island, do not do life on your own. 

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Conclusion

The Bible says if any man is without sin let him cast the first stone. In the end, the society is not the standard, God is and whom the Lord sets free is free indeed. If you have asked God for forgiveness please forgive yourself too. God loves you regardless.