5 Progressive First Date Questions for Christian Singles

As a Christian, you may find troubles with going on a date either because you don’t want to seem boring, too forward, or too inquisitive. Trust me, many single Christians or believers feel this way, but guess what? It’s absolutely okay to feel that way. However, it is not okay to let those feelings stop you from going on dates. 

I also understand that nobody wants to waste their time going on dates that will eventually lead nowhere. This is why, today, I will be writing about a couple of questions that could be interactive and would also set the tone for a nice date while giving you information about what you want. With these questions and the tone in which the responses are made, you will definitely get your answers. 

So, if you are a single who is ready to mingle, this one is for you. And when I say mingle, I mean people who are ready to settle down in a godly relationship.

To start this off, always have this at the back of your mind, no matter how perfect their answers are; always ask God for wisdom and trust him to make a good decision for you.

1. Now, can you tell me about your background?

The first question would be a little background about the person, just to ease into the whole conversation. Normally, I would advise you to start off the conversation yourself first, then tell the other person to do the same.For instance, I am Naomi, a 25-year-old accountant who loves to sing. On weekends, when I'm not balancing sheets, you can find me singing in church. I am also a lover of God, and I am the middle child of four children. Then you say, "now, can you tell me about your background?

What this does is to ease the tension and also give the other person a template for how he or she should answer the question. With this, the date is off to a good start. Then, you can go ahead and ask about his or her family based on the response.

2. Talking about children, what's your family like?

I need you to find something that connects from the first question to the next question. That's the rule. You can proceed with a short description of your family say for example "for me, I come from a highly religious family. My parents treat all children equally, and me, my siblings, and my parents are practically like friends." At that point, you can pass it off to your date partner who then continues with their side of response. You may also add something like "every last Friday of the month, everyone makes sure they go to the family house for our monthly get together; it brings us together. What about you? What's your family like?"

3. Coming from a religious family, you must have some really interesting church memories right?

When the person responds to the question about family, you can continue the conversation and link it to knowing what his spiritual level is like. You can start off with something like, One of my favorite memories as a child would be Thanksgiving Sundays in church, when we got to sew new clothes to wear to church. I always loved it because, you know, every child loved that new cloth feeling.What about you? What was church like for you? This is a straightforward question; after asking it, if the response is not sufficient to tell you about his or her spiritual life, you can follow up with a question about the person’s faith.

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4. That's really Interesting. On a Scale of 1-10, how much of a Christian are you?

When asking about the faith of the person, do not try to be self righteous or condescending in your manner of approach. It can be as simple as asking. "I've come to understand that Christianity is a personal journey, no matter how religious our backgrounds may be. So if you don't mind, on a scale of 1-10, how much of a Christian are you? Or on a scale of 1-10, how well do you believe in God? As simple as these questions are, you’d be surprised at how eye opening they will be. If the person says, "Uh, maybe a five or six," you can now proceed and say, "Well, for me, it’s an 8 or a 10/10. You can dig a little deeper and say, "Why is it so low?" or "Do you care to share why you gave it a 5?" That can start another conversation. 

5. What kind of Family would you love to build?

When you are satisfied enough with the response and follow up conversation from the fourth question. You can move on to the topic of the kind of family he wants. Trust me, you need to know this. It is easy to weed out people who are not serious with all these questions. You can start off by asking if he or she would like a relationship like their parents' or what exactly they want in their relationship. If there is time, you can ask about deal breakers and other minor stuff you would want to know.One way to make the person open up is to always start off with yourself and later give room for the person to talk.The last question you should ask is about the person’s hobbies and how he or she unwinds with his or her friends. Through this, you will get to know how entertaining the person is. You will also get ideas for planning the next date if you decide to continue based on the responses.This question is a little bit relaxed, and it is a fun way to end the date.

Let’s do a quick run down on the nature of the questions again.

You must understand that you are not a hiring manager and the person is not at that date for an interview. So, you must have proper conversations and not just start questioning the person randomly. If you do so, there may not be a second date, and it will likely leave the person walking on eggshells with future date partners.

1. A quick background because, duh! Everybody wants to know who they are getting involved with.
2. What is your family like? Well, the foundation of a person’s character is mostly dependent on the way he or she was brought up.
3. Connect with memories and link up with the person’s spiritual level. and I don’t mean by telling them to speak in tongues or what not.
4. What’s your ideal kind of relationship? It is good to know this, so you’d know deal breakers and all. This let’s you know if that will be the end of the relationship or if you will want a second date
5. The last question is to ease off the date and kind of connect to the fun side of the person. So, you will be asking about what the person loves doing in his or her spare time.

Conclusion

Before I wrap up, let me strongly warn you not to copy and paste these questions on your first date because, trust me, there are chances that your date partner has come across this article 😊. So while the questions are solid, non-negotiables, you should be more creative about how you go about asking them. 

Like I mentioned earlier, all these questions are non-negotiables and they are necessary because, even apart from the responses of your date partners, their reactions will also give them away. That is why you have to stay vigilant when asking questions like this. 

Now, to close this off, always have this at the back of your mind, no matter how perfect their answers are; always ask God for wisdom and trust him to make a good decision for you. Do not ever depend on your understanding; always depend on your guide, the Holy Spirit.

That will be all for today. I hope you enjoyed the read. Let me know what you think about this in the comment section.