Managing Sexuality as a Single: Is Being Horny A Sin?

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"Help! I am horny!" is the cry of many singles today.

Dear single, your sexuality is peculiar to you and its intentional by God. 

Feeling sexually aroused or being horny is typical of every human, especially when you are between teanage to early 30s. Do you want to know how to manage your feelings as a single? This past is for you, keep reading.Our emotions and feelings are part of the fabrics of our being. Our feelings tell we are spirit in human(flesly) suit and we are 100% healthy medically or bodily.Please know that our feelings and sexual desires are no curse but blessing, and was designed by God to be enjoyed ONLY in the confines of marriage. These desires only becomes sinful when we explore them with the wrong person at the wrong time.There are a few truths I'll share with you to help with your sexual desires as a single. Let's talk a walk with these truths:1. Understanding God's Design For Our Feelings.Know that our feelings are not just sexual, but we also feel peace, love, happiness, joy, delight, compassion and many more. The presence of our emotions is the way we relate to the physical world. One is as good as dead if such a one can not feel a thing. Think about it for a moment. How does someone who can't feel a thing relate with someone else who is overjoyed? Impossible, right?Begin to see your ability to feel and desire as a gift from God

 

2. It is a Tool

As much as our sexual desires are a gift from God, it can be the greatest tool of the devil against us if not tamed and yielded to God, hence the battle to stay chaste which is one of the greatest battle we will fight as a single.We will need to consciously submit our desires to God through the Holy Spirit cause it can be a channel for God to mightily use us. The popular Gospel music minister Victoria Orenze said: "Whenever I feel like holding a man, I just channel that energy in worship. I worship and sing till that feeling dies..." (paraphrased), and we can see how God is mightily using her as an instrument in the Body. Since it is God who designed it, it is only wise to submit it to God.The battle is in our hearts(minds) not physically and we need to be battle-ready not battle-surprised. Don't be surprised when these feelings are aroused themselves without you provoking them mentally. Scripture says in Proverbs 4:23 - Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. The enemy will always try to stir up our emotions in a wrong way in our hearts, as long as we stay submitted to God, we will keep defeating him in our hearts.

3. Flee or Fight

It's either you flee or fight. As we continue to sojourn on Earth, we will continually be faced with sexual temptations. Sexual temptation comes in different forms, even in ways we can not imagine - through thoughts, movies, novels, stories, songs, and the list goes on.We have the option to either Flee or Fight when we are faced with sexual temptations. Fleeing for you might be going offline for a period, not chatting with that friend for a while, not seeing movies at night, not shaking hands with or hugging everybody, etc. Find out what triggers your sexual hormones as a single and abstain from it(them). You will have to fight if its a condition where you can't flee like a thought in your head or some pyrographic scene pops on your screen. In this case you will have to fight with Scriptures and pull down thise thoughts.

An experience I'll like to share: while on campus, 200 level precisely. Whenever I was observing my morning devotion, I'll have just snapshots of pornographic scenes in my thoughts especially when I was praying, and when I see those scenes in my thoughts that will be end of my devotion for that day because the thoughts came over like a literal heavy stone on my head, so it would weigh me down and ill be too heavy to pray. Note: I don't see pyrographic movies. I kept struggling with this challeng until I opened up to my campus fellowship president. He exhorted me on Scriptures and encouraged me to "Keep praying" whenever it occurs. I never stopped praying whenever the thought came afterwards till the thought was subdued. As I am speaking now it doesn't have any hold over me like it did over 7 years ago. Keep engaging the WORD - which is our sword to pull down these thoughts.

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4. Your Submission To The Word and To Someone.

Be yielded to and filled with God's Word always. Your response to your sexual arousal will be determined by how much of God's Word in your spirit.Find a mature, trusted Christian you can talk to when you're faced with thus challenge. Whenever you're horny, do well to talk to a same-sex, like-minded Christian that can help at such a time. 

Great Grace unto you!